2 Questions Asked By Men That Are Going Through A Divorce

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Are you a man that is planning to get a divorce from your spouse, but you're worried that you are not going to get your fair share from the divorce? Here are some questions that you likely have. 

What Should Be Done To Retain Child Custody?

If you are looking to have custody of your kids after a divorce, it is important to look at all the reasons that could be used against you to argue that you shouldn't have custody. For example, if you have a history with substance abuse, it is important to seek counseling to work on that problem. If you have anger issues, then consider therapy to work out why you are angry. You need to be able to foresee the arguments that could be used against you receiving child custody and prove how you have been working on them. 

One thing to always remember is that things are done with the child's best interest in mind. This means that you ultimately have to show how you will be a better parent than your spouse. Find the areas where your spouse is lacking in terms of parenting and show how you excel in those areas. Ask yourself who helps your kids the most with homework, who does the majority of the cooking, and even who takes the kids to the doctors. All these things add up, and not doing them during the marriage can impact a custody decision. Start preparing for this by being as involved as possible before the divorce. 

What Should You Do If You're Being Asked To Leave The House?

You may be in a tough situation where you are being asked to leave your home because of the animosity between you and your spouse. One thing to keep in mind is that it is hard to get back things that you give up during a divorce, since a judge is less likely to give those things back to you. If you listen to your ex's requests to leave the house, then know that it is very likely that you will lose the house in the divorce. Try to do what is best for the kids to keep things as normal as possible. They'll need to stay in the home so that they can go to the same school, see the same friends, and maintain the same routine. However, you should find a way to live in the same house but give your partner space. For example, move into an extra bedroom or into the basement so that you create separation. If you leave, it will be very hard to move back in. 

To learn more, contact a divorce attorney at a law firm like Gomez May LLP.